Lately, I’ve been having a relatively perfect day. My work was flowing, my health was good, and my loved ones were happy and safe. Then boom. This little A voice inside my head He started screaming. Do you think you are the right person for this? what are you thinking about? You don’t cut out what’s coming. These ego thoughts, which were all based on scarcity and fear, came pouring in. It was as if everything I was doing to build self-confidence fell apart in that moment with my shifting thoughts.
What I’ve learned in my forty years is that unbridled voice of negativity and lack of self confidence It just happens, I think to all of us. It can come in like a hurricane — and there’s often no clear way to predict it. However, at the same time, self-confidence can always shine through. The key is to grow and nurture it. When we do this, we counteract the energy of self-sabotage and negative societal conditioning and take back the power that is entirely our own.
Featured image by Michelle Nash.
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5 game-changing tips for building self-confidence
Over the years, I’ve gathered everything I can to help me through bouts of low self-confidence and honor my strength. These next five tricks – you can call them life tricks, Simple supportive practicesor self-care exercises – are the tactics that always help me Build self-confidence. It’s free, instant, and easy—and I promise it will help get you out the next time you find yourself in the midst of negative self-talk.
1. Practice the power pose
This exercise, which is Camille’s favouriteDoes the job – every time. And it’s all thanks to the brilliant social psychologist Amy Cuddy. The power posture theory is simple yet revolutionary: You put yourself in a position where your arms are up, your chest is up, and your legs are spread and firmly on the floor to make yourself look bigger.
Cuddy posits that our body language and the way we hold our physical bodies has an enormous impact on how we view ourselves (and how others view us). You could say Kodi started a revolution with her power after that 2010 Ted Talk, which has garnered more than 22 million views. In the talk, Cady explains how her research findings revealed that a physiological change occurred after subjects performed the pose, including a decrease in the stress hormone cortisol.
Cuddy’s research had a huge impact on me. I do a strength function at least once a week. Before a meeting or interview, I’ll walk into my bathroom, look in the mirror, and put my arms up high. But what mostly comes up is when I feel low. A quick pause and the waves of self-confidence bounce back.
2. Go for a hot girl walk
Over the past couple of years or so, TikTok has boomed with the Girl Walk fitness trend — or as Mia Lind officially put it, the Hot Girl Walk™ — and for good reason. Just as its name suggests, the sexy girl walk encourages a positive, self-empowerment, and loving state of mind while performing one of the most beneficial forms of exercise. You go for a walk and think wonderful things about yourself: I’m beautiful, I’m sexy. I love my body.
Lind started this trend in 2020 when she started walking for her mental and physical health. When she did a positive, structured spin on what she would allow herself to think while walking, she found that she always graduated from a state of funk to a place of empowerment. Its concept took off. This exercise has easily become one of the most accessible and impactful ways to tap into my inner confidence. No matter where I am, I’ll take five to ten minutes, I’ll do a positive song, and I’ll hit the pavement.
3. Do a mental unwinding
When negative thoughts enter my mind, I have learned to see them as physical objects. This helps me visualize physically Pushing those thoughts out of my mind to make room for confidence to fill the void. It is a unique practice that I draw upon after finding inspiration from the author and healer Peggy Fitzsimmons. An expert in what she calls “mental clutter,” Fitzsimmons believes that our selfish mind, which fuels negative self-talk and suppresses confidence, can keep us in a trance.
Simply put: when we start thinking “You’re not good enoughWe truly believe in it and live it. In contrast, when we take the time to notice our thoughts, we find room for choice—that is, we realize that we don’t have to let that thought control us. So when a wave of negativity takes hold, Fitzsimmons says we watch what we think. If If our thoughts are not serving us or making us feel good, push them away and choose to think about something positive instead.
I love this practice. I used to think that if the idea of self-sabotage ever occurred to me, I was held hostage by it. not longer. When this happens, I watch for a moment and then put the thought out of my mind. Then I choose a happier picture. Almost immediately, my confidence swells.
4. Talk to yourself as a friend
We’re always there to say nice things to a friend, especially if they’re in trouble. But how often do we talk to ourselves in this kind way? Psychologist Dr Kirsten Neff believes it’s not often enough – and she’s seeking to change that. Dr. Neff feels we need more Especially pity. This means treating ourselves with concern, warmth and support, just as we treat our loved ones. Basically, it’s about how we handle ourselves in difficult times and is key to boosting confidence. One practice is to literally talk to yourself as you would a friend. You can look in the mirror and say things like, “You’re amazing.” “I had a hard time, you can get through this.” “You are such a wonderful, kind, and unique soul.”
I’ve used Dr. Neff’s training and it’s always helped me get out of my funk and into a light of self-confidence. In fact, sometimes I laughed at myself doing it. But it helps me realize that if positive self-talk feels clumsy (albeit healthy), it’s negative. self-loathing It is honestly a waste of time.
5. Immerse yourself in nature
We all know nature is the ultimate confidence booster and Stress reliever. Study after study shows the physical and mental benefits He walks in the woodsOr touch a tree or just stare at a field. The research spans centuries and countries, beginning with the origins of Ayurveda, and has recently received the Western attention it deserves: We are one with our environments, and thus nature can help lift our spirits.
The land around reminds me that my time here is fleeting, so I should try to lean on it as gratefully and positively as I can.
When I lack confidence, I drop whatever I’m doing at the moment, put on a coat, step outside, and walk wherever there are trees. Ideally, I dive into a forest. But if I’m in a city, I’ll look for greenery wherever it is, making sure to look up at the trees and touch the leaves. I will immediately feel stress release and a Positive hypertrophy. I am also humbled. The land around reminds me that my time here is fleeting, so I should try to turn to it as gratefully and positively as I can.